Pakistani singer Hadiqa Kiani recently posted a few photos with her 13-year-old son Naad-E-Ali and people took that as an opportunity to ‘propose’ to her.
She revealed she received multiple ‘proposals’ on Instagram from men who wanted to marry her while acknowledging that they are accepting of her son. Hadiqa says she’s had enough of her child being used as an excuse to initiate talk about the need for her marriage.
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In a story on Instagram, she wrote: “The notion that the single mother is a victim needing your pity or love is beyond me. The fact that men like this think that I, or any woman, is desperate for marriage because she has a child is disgusting. Having a child is not a disability. It’s an honour and privilege.”
“Stop using the child of a woman as a way to romance her or as a way to force her into a relationship because this society makes it seem like single mothers aren’t capable of raising their children on their own.”
She also voiced her her facing societal pressures when she chose to adopt her child:
“When I chose to adopt, I was told by many that it would ruin my chances of remarrying. I know other women who have been harassed by family members and people in our society. Being told that they must find a father for their kids. And many men are amazing and kind and loving but there are evil men who take advantage of a single mother’s children. The same relatives who tell you to remarry never seem to mention those men. I say all of this to say: Respect the single mother’s capabilities as a parent.”
For all the women out there, she shared, “It is your job to encourage and uplift your fellow women, not judge her or force her into a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.”